Vacationing with a Child with Autism: A Little Preparation Can Make a Big Difference

For many families, vacations are exciting

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For many children with autism, they can also be overwhelming.

What parents often picture as a relaxing getaway can quickly become filled with anxiety, tears, meltdowns, and frustration, not because their child is "being difficult," but because almost everything about a vacation is different from their normal routine.

The bed is different.

The food is different.

The bathroom is different.

The sounds are different.

The schedule is different.

Even the way the day begins and ends is different.

For many autistic children, routines create predictability, and predictability creates a sense of safety. When those routines suddenly disappear, it's understandable that big feelings may follow.

The good news?

With thoughtful preparation, many children with autism can have wonderful vacation experiences. The goal isn't to eliminate every challenge, it's to help your child know what to expect and feel supported when things don't go exactly as planned.

Why Vacations Can Be Challenging

Many autistic children experience uncertainty, but they may not yet have the communication skills to express it with words. Instead, anxiety often shows itself through behaviors like crying, refusing to participate, shutting down, or having a meltdown.

Understanding why your child is struggling helps us respond with compassion instead of frustration.

Social Stories: One of Your Best Vacation Tools

One of my favorite ways to prepare children for a vacation is by creating a simple social story. Social stories help children understand exactly what will happen before it happens. They replace the uncertainty they feel with predictability.

Your social story doesn't have to be fancy. Use your own photos whenever possible. If you don't have pictures yet, print images from the internet. Walk through the vacation step by step.

For example:

• We are going on a family vacation.

• First, we will pack our clothes.

• Then we will put our suitcases in the car.

• We will drive to the airport.

• We will check in.

• We will go through security.

• We will wait at our gate.

• We will get on the airplane.

• We will fly to our destination.

• Someone will pick up our luggage.

• We will drive to our hotel (or house).

• This is where I will sleep.

• This is where I will eat breakfast.

• These are some fun things we will do.

• When our vacation is finished, we will come home.

  
  

Read the story several times before your trip and again while you're traveling.

The more familiar the sequence becomes, the less overwhelming it often feels.

Break Big Experiences into Smaller Steps

Sometimes "We're flying on an airplane" is simply too big of a concept. Here's an example of breaking the airport experience into manageable pieces.

For example:

• Drive to the airport

• Park the car

• Walk inside

• Check our bags

• Stand in line

• Go through security

• Wait at the gate

• Watch airplanes

• Board the plane

• Find our seats

• Buckle our seatbelts

• Take off

• Eat a snack

• Land

• Get our luggage

Make sure to pair each sentence with a photograph or image. Each completed step helps your child feel successful and understand what's coming next.

Bring Your Visual Supports

Just because you're on vacation doesn't mean your visual supports stay home. They are a very important piece of the trip!

Consider bringing any of the following:

• A portable visual schedule

• First-Then boards

• Choice boards

• A visual timer

• Break cards

• Emotion visuals

• A communication board or AAC device

• A simple countdown showing how many days remain before going home

Keeping some familiar supports available helps provide consistency in a new environment.

Bring Pieces of Home

Small comforts can make unfamiliar places feel much safer. Think about what helps your child relax at home.

Maybe it's:

• A favorite blanket

• A special stuffed animal

• A preferred toy

• Their favorite pajamas

• A bedtime book

• A familiar bedtime routine

• A travel-sized white noise machine

• Ocean sounds or calming music

Keeping bedtime as familiar as possible often leads to better sleep......for everyone.

Let Your Child Help Prepare

Whenever possible, include your child in the planning.

They might help:

• Choose favorite toys to pack

• Pick snacks for the trip

• Select which stuffed animal is coming

• Help pack their suitcase

• Look at pictures of the hotel

• Watch videos of the destination

• Choose between two planned activities

Even small choices help children feel more in control.

Expect Big Feelings

Even with excellent preparation, there may still be difficult moments.

That's okay.

A meltdown doesn't mean the vacation has failed. It doesn't mean your child isn't making progress. It simply means the situation became overwhelming.

Instead of asking, "How do I stop this?"

Ask yourself: "What is my child communicating?"

Are they tired?

Hungry?

Overstimulated?

Scared?

Needing a break?

Respond with support instead of punishment.

Have a Calm-Down Plan

Before you leave, think through what helps your child regulate. Every child is different.

Your calm-down plan might include:

• Deep breathing

• Counting slowly together

• Taking a walk

• Sitting somewhere quiet

• Listening to calming music

• Using headphones

• Squeezing a sensory toy

• Swinging if a playground is nearby

• Wrapping up in a favorite blanket

• Taking a short break from the activity

Sometimes the best decision isn't pushing through. Sometimes it's stepping away, helping your child regulate, and trying again later.

Remember the Goal

The goal isn't to have a "perfect" vacation.

The goal is to create positive family memories while helping your child successfully experience something new.

Make Your Next Vacation a Little Easier

Download my FREE Autism Vacation Preparation Checklist on the freebies page to help your child know what to expect before, during, and after your trip. The checklist includes planning timelines, packing lists, visual support ideas, travel tips, and strategies to help make your family's vacation more successful!

Karen Taylor, M.S., CCC-SLP, CAS

Speech-Language Pathologist

Founder, Universal Speech Strategies

"Helping parents and professionals build communication through practical, evidence-based strategies."